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Were abusers abused

I recently found out my ex abusive gf has a past of abusing and using other men

She pretended at the start to love me aka love bomb me

Do they ever change?

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User PRao
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Are abusers abused? Yes most are. There is something that triggers them to be that way. However, if they are/were abused they have no excuse to abuse others. So no they don’t change.
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User ELuke
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It just depends on if they mature throughout their life, but from my experience no they don’t change sadly I’m sorry you have to go through this
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User Rob Cranfill
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